On dating in Jordan
I’m a person who likes to understand things, but something there are things you simply can’t understand. Like for example the dating/marriage system in traditional families.
Last week I met a woman looking for a bride for her son. She only has one demand: the girl needs to be pretty. Education doesn’t matter. As a matter of fact, it’s better if the girl isn’t too clever. She won’t have to leave the house anyway.
In the same week, I met another woman looking for a bride for her son. She doesn’t want an Arab girl, because of several reasons. Let’s say she just doesn’t like the current generation of brides-to-be. She wants her son to marry a foreigner.
And of course, who’d be better placed than me to find her son a bride. – Yeah right. I don’t think so.
Now, if your born into a family that is somehow traditional like 90% of the families here then you have to live by their rules, especially when it comes to dating/marriage. But imagine that, God forbids, you have your own personality, that somehow that ideal person that your family has in mind for you, isn’t at all the prince (or princess) charming you have in mind to spend the rest of your life with. What do you do then? You marry the person for the sake of peace and family honor? Or you marry the person you like, whatever his/her origin, religion, and probably lose your family and bring shame upon them??
The big dilemma’s of life…
Now for me it would be easy. No matter culture, religion or anything else, through my stubborn character my parents have learned in the past that there’s not much they can do if I have set my mind on something. They certainly don’t always agree with me, on the contrary, but they let me live, let me make my own mistakes and let me learn from them (at least sometimes I do). Now what would you do? I’m curious reading people’s opinions.